Question: How do I understand myself or general human beings as sexual beings, and how do I live as sexual being?
Reflecting on what I already knew and what I have learned about sexuality, I think that firstly my method is changing, it is not the way of collecting more information and knowledge, but reconstruction of some things which is already there in me, some concepts or some perception I have had before now are reformed. Surely one of them is sexuality. It is somehow not easy, because the word which is the translation of ‘sexuality’ in Vietnamese language impressed my mind, it frames my thought. On this reflection paper, I do step by step to answers the question above.
1. How do I understand myself or general human beings as sexual beings?
My understanding of myself and my sexuality still be on the
way of becoming, which is influenced by many thought and many tradition. With
what I have understood of sexuality, I think that my being or general human
beings is as sexual beings.
Firstly, sexuality is an expression of
human beings in term of embodiment. In other word, being is as a sexual being in
term of physically. I am a being, it means that I am living in the cycle of
life which is in me and as a substance of me, I am a part of the living
universe, the living Beings. So physically I am in cycle of reproduction, there
is sexual energy in me so that I keep life continued by cooperate to bare new
life. I have sexual desire, there is sexual orientation in me, I am as male so
I am attracted by female, by their beauty, and their body. This energy is in me
as an instinct. I also have some kind of desire to have intercourse or intimacy
with girl. Moreover, as a being in the whole self, feeling and emotion are parts
of me. I cannot separate my body out of my being, and ignore my body with my
feeling and emotion, or think of it negatively. These tendency is naturally myself.
In addition, sexuality
is the way of being in reality or in particular society. In every society, each
general one has their own role. These role are related to their gender or to
social concept on how I should think, feel and act. So, the way in which being
exists is always influenced by social construction, and depended on gender. For
each gender undertake their position, and authority, and way of life. I have to
learn what I can say, what kind of clothes I wear, How do I react, etc.
Moreover, sexuality is
the way that being is as a being in the interconnected universe. Because
sexuality is the connecting energy, forcing being to go out, to connect with other
beings. Using the Taoism view of reality, every being is interconnected to each
other and to the whole. I am a being means that I am interconnected being; all
beings are interconnected physically, biologically, socially, and interconnected
in substance. It is suitable here to think of love which is an aspect of
sexuality, Love is also a connecting energy in order to connect beings. It makes
being go forward and being happy. So in the light of Gospel, I can see that God
is love as substance of universe, uniting all beings.
2. How do I live as a sexual beings?
Understanding myself as a sexual being inspires me something
not only in my mind but also in my behavior, my way of life.
Reflecting on myself, importantly I think that I have to pay
attention more to my emotion, It means that I have to know more about some basic
emotion and feeling, my body sensation, and what are my tendencies. So that I
am aware of myself better and have a clear outlook of myself. Then I know what
are good points and what are weaknesses to improve. I shall be humble and open
to know myself through the help of the people around. I am honest to accept
that of my sexual tendency, my desire; it is part of my self, it is myself.
In addition, in the perception that I am the process of
wholistic, means becoming. I cannot ignore or unevaluated any part, especially
sexuality. I am the whole person. What is my whole, weak,… and mistakes in the
past. I bring them into my prayer to embrace them as Jesus embrace me. For if I
am comfortable with my shadow I will have no fear, fear the things I hide being
showed, fear that people see my shadow.
Being aware of my sexuality is aware that the way I express
myself is being interconnected with others and with the world naturally. I am
on the way to know and become myself full when I keep in touch with others, I
cannot be an island. I live as interconnected being when I inter-dialogue with
others, collaborate, cooperate, I care and think of others in my thought and
choice.
In summary, learning from the journey of reflection the
history of sexuality, I should reconstruct somethings which I have gotten about
sexuality with opened mind. I think that sexuality is the fundamental part of my
personality, is a way of being, self-expression, in which my being is my body,
my emotion and feeling, my gender, and my interconnection with the world. So I
have to learn to embrace my whole being, and care more of emotion and feeling,
whatever they are, and accept it. Hopefully, my dream of understanding and coming
to my true self is in an ongoing process.
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